Unconditional Love/ AGAPE

What is unconditional Love? Love fills us, make us whole, and give us the happiness. Unconditional love is enlarging the self, and an act of will. It is not a feeling or an emotional reaction per say it’s what is evident. Think of the difference between falling in love, and growing in love through all difficulties and conflicts. Unconditional love is an act of mental and spiritual will; it cannot and does not take place upon the emotional level, which is where the problems first register. Unconditional love is extending oneself in the service of the spiritual growth of oneself and/or another. This is the original and only true form of love.

See we were designed, created out of love that’s why we yearn for it the way we do. Today love is perceived differently through sex, money and praise leading to feeling less than. This love is temporary! That love that is felt at the bare minimum, which I believe is from the Morning Star, A.K.A. Lucifer, Satan the Devil himself. Yahweh says, “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. II Timothy 1:7 Therefore if there is more fear, hurt and discouragement your version of love if not what is intended. Corinthians 13, 1 says”.

Love is long suffering, love is kind, it is not jealous, love does not boast, it is not inflated. It is not discourteous, it is not selfish, it is not irritable, and it does not enumerate the evil.

It does not rejoice over the wrong, but rejoices in the truth.  It covers all things, it has faith for all things, and it hopes in all things, it endures in all things. Love never falls in ruins; but whether prophecies, they will be abolished; or tongues, they will cease; or knowledge, it will be superseded.”

Agape Love is when we make foolish mistakes, when we fail to do what other people want, and even when we get in their way, but they don’t feel disappointed or irritated at us. That is Real Love (true unconditional love), and that love alone has the power to heal all wounds, bind people together, and create relationships quite beyond our present capacity to imagine.

I encourage you all to display Agape Love, the Love of the Most High! Regardless how you feel or what another may have done to hurt love you! In the end Yeshuah has the last say so, “Therefore wait ye upon me, saith the LORD, until the day that I rise up to the prey: for my determination [is] to gather the nations, that I may assemble the kingdoms, to pour upon them mine indignation, [even] all my fierce anger: for all the earth shall be devoured with the fire of my jealousy no matter the sit” Zephaniah 3:8

There’s only one true love and that is Agape Love, whenever you’re in doubt look to His word and ye will find!!

“God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life. God did not send his Son into the world to condemn it, but to save it.” John 3:16-17




The Dangers of Soul Ties

sexSoul ties can be a gift and a curse. Close your eyes and imagine being bound to the devil himself. You know he is the enemy, you know he only comes to rob kill and destroy. And yet you continue to go back time and time again. You get drunk/high, get into a car accident S/he’s the driver a driver on a different occasion, you go back to drinking again soon as released from the hospital.

Her husband’s beats her nearly to death, she still go back just days later because she “loves” him.

He cheats on you time and time again and yet you still go back after all the promises of change.
These are some of the  signs that you have ties to a soul that is not for you and not from God.

Soul ties will torment you day in and day out regarding these certain people you have gotten entangled with.  You will obsess over this person/this thing that has you bound constantly; checking the phone for a missed call/text you know you haven’t received. Daydreaming  about being with this person. Frequent calls and trips to be in the presence of what you love so much so much only for it to hurt you again again and again. This is not healthy for you or the other person.

God’s word speaks of “soul ties” just not in this specific manner. He speaks of ties when it comes to marriage, man and woman shall be joined as one. He even spoke of the bonded friendships such as David and Jonathan in:

1 Samuel 18:1 “And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that at the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, band Jonathan loved him as his own soul”.

However; the ties of the souls are oh so prevalent and deadly today. When you are tied to a soul/a substance/a thing that is not of God, it is not good and not in God’s will for your life. Therefore you will be held back and unable to progress.

God wants us to have healthy relationships that build us up, provide wisdom, and give Godly counsel. God will strategically bring good relationships into our lives to form healthy soul ties. In contrast, Satan always brings counterfeits into our lives to form unhealthy soul ties. One must be so in tuned with God that difference between the is spotted and addressed.

I have heard of soul ties commonly referred as a positive connotation, but never read in to them to really pay much attention too know and understand its true demonic meaning.

But when you are in a toxic situation and you want out bad enough you will find away. You will want to know, Why the hell am I still with S/he???

My best and most reliable resource is God almighty and through Him all things are possible. With Him, all things will be brought to the light and deliverance is in the mist.

Repent, renounce and be delivered from the love promises made with your enemy. Soul ties are real, but they do not have to be. You no longer be tormented.

Pray with me…

“Father God, I come to you now with repentance on my lips and in my heart. Please turn my heart away from any idols in my life and turn it towards you. You are the fountain from which all blessings flow and I will praise you, Elohim, as long as I shall live. You are the one true God. You are my deliverer and the opener of my womb. You have healed my barrenness by revealing your Son and your Spirit without which I would be lost in darkness. I pray against any attack of the enemy on my mind. May the works of satan in my life be destroyed by fire. Seal any crack or crevice that gives the enemy entrance to my mind, will or emotions. Use my hands to glorify you and destroy the works of the enemy through your Son, Jesus Christ. Remove anything and anyone from my life that does not align with your divine will for my life and my destiny in you. Grant me the discernment to identify and remove idols from my life. I praise you and thank you for my deliverance. I will glorify you all the days of my life. In the name of Yeshua. Amen.”



Post Break-Up Dating, AVOID IT

Post Break-Up Dating, AVOID IT

When you are fresh-out of a relationship, the worst part are those initial feelings of loneliness. Sleeping alone, eating alone, talking alone; no romance you are just all alone.

To loose someone you love is devastating, and we tend to act out  from the temporary feelings of sadness and loneliness. These feelings may cause the desire to be with someone even more.

Its normalcy to desire a mate, we were never created to be alone…

To jump into a relationship or to start seeing someone directly after a break up is a BIG mistake. (Unless there were no emotions attached to that relationship). You’re emotions will have you all the way over in left field quickly, or your emotions/feelings may not even be visible due to not wanting to get hurt or being left alone again.

Invisible or fake feelings are just cold hearted. Who wants a cold-hearted person?

Let’s analyze this pointless after break-up dating…

A guy ask you out that you have no interest in and you go on the date. The whole time you are wishing that you are with your ex. The whole time you are wishing you were not there. The whole time you wish the evening was over and he would get out of your face.

Heaven forbid, you begin to truly dig him, and he is worse than than the relationship or (situtaionship). Or Heaven forbids he begins to like you and you don’t feel him? That ain’t right on no level.

Pointless dating, you just wasted that man time. All you got was a meal you could have cooked or bought yourself. Or Heaven forbids you sleep with this guy you don’t even know.

Take your time. Do not date unless you’re really ready to put your past relationship in the past. You don’t want to bring baggage from your broken heart into a brand new relationship,  no one likes to be the rebound.

And when you do date, do not rush it. Shop around, and DONT SETTLE!

There will be several lonely nights. A lot of restless nights a lot of tears. That is ok you are healing.

No need to go and jump on the first guy you see being thirsty for companionship. Take this time to find yourself, fall in love with yourself. Not the first person who pays you a little attention. Or you may quickly have  Déjà Vu, your past relationship is repeating itself in the current relationship, Heaven forbid something worse.

So, breathe… True love is worth the wait…




ooAs I sat in the cafe this morning at the children’s hospital, I saw so many little sweet faces. So many baby faces that were there to see a doctor for some reason or another. This hospital is a specialty facility for children with all types of medical issues. I seen children with tumors on their faces as big as a mango. I saw a little girl with no leg, she could be no more than 4 or 5. I saw a little boy with a head as big as a football with the biggest and brightest green eyes who was unable to walk. But with eyes like his, you could see his happiness all around him. As I look and smile at these beautiful babies, I just had to stop and thank God for being such and AWESOME God!

My two year old son was born with a hand deformity. It is a rare deformity called amniotic band syndrome. Amniotic band syndrome occurs when the fetus becomes entangled in fibrous string/bands in the womb, restricting blood flow and affecting the baby’s development. When my son was first born, I was ashamed and did not want anyone to see my baby. I felt I did something to cause this upon my child. I was afraid for him, that people would laugh at him. I was afraid that he would be rejected by society as I once rejected and downed people. Oh how this little two year old has taught me so much and I have grown so much.

Surprisingly, his hand deformity often goes undetected. I look at him and other children who may look different from what society would consider normal with nothing but love and admiration. I often think that children with no deformities are the different ones now. I am so thankful and appreciative that God chose me to be his mommy.

We all were created in the love and likeness of God, therefore we should act to par. Please, be thankful for whatever life throws at you, it could always be worse. What I consider major may be minute to the next person. But-to each its own, just remember to always be thankful.

Many Blessings,

First Thessalonians 5:16-18 “Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”



It’s ok to be angry

Society sees a person who is sad, down and depressed as a person who is weak. Often we see and hear messages preaching positivity, “Be Positive” “Turn the Other Cheek” “Everything Will Be Ok”. But the truth of the matter is we all will get angry. The way you execute your anger is what is really important and crucial to self and those around you.

This is not 1946 when issues were kept confined to the home and swept under the rug. This is the 21st Century where depression, addiction and death are very real. I often wonder how many lives could have been saved if people knew how to properly deal with their anger hurt and pain?

A loss of a loved one, a break up especially; emotions tend to be all over the place. Hate, Anger, Pain, Heartbreak, Loneliness and all those emotions are fine to have.

It’s ok to cry, scream, punch a pillow, work out till you can’t work out anymore to relieve some of the pain and pressure from the hurt you are going through.

But it is not ok to harbor feelings of hurt, pain, anger suicide… inside and allow them to fester.

Denying your anger can cause unnecessary pain and can come out destructively and worsen your situation. When we do not learn how to deal with our issues we learn to cope through loneliness, alienation to avoid feeling the emotion. It may also lead to doubting self and not trusting ones own feelings and emotions.

I am a firm believer in God’s word, in His word it tells us there is a time for everything. But even in our anger, the bible tells us do not sin in our anger.

Again, it is ok to get angry. However; in your anger steer away from making decisions that you will soon regret. In your anger, address your anger so that you can become an over comer. So that you can progress in life with healthy coping skills and not the revolving issues of the angry man/woman.

Deep Breaths, all is well!




If there is something or someone who is holding you back from progressing in life …. TRASH IT/THEM

anigif_enhanced-25429-1403635424-3The first step in recovery is admitting that there is an issue that is stagnating and causing you troubles in life. Find that unwanted trouble and trash it. By trashing/addressing your troubles you will be able to move onto the next step which is healing. The biggest mistake a hurt person can make is going back to the person/thing that has caused so them so much hurt/pain/loss and sometimes so much more.

Like Monica, from the hit TV show Friends is throwing her trash out in the clip above, we must do the same for that which brings us no good or growth. Those that are lucky can walk away smooth sailing. However; the majority of us will get some kickback or a little trash on us… it is all good. What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger, right??

Situations are easy to get into and so hard to get out, but with your Higher Power (God) ALL things are possible. I have always been the type of person what moves at the speed of light. Driving, cooking, typing you name it; I’m rushing it. One thing that I do not want to rush anymore is Heather. I want all things God has in store for me, and if you knew Him…you would too.

The best way I can foresee becoming the best me I can be is:

√Getting rid of my trash

√Forgiving myself and others

√Turning back to God

√Let Go

Now, I just have to heal…

So, welcome to my Blog as I am on my journey of becoming the woman God engineered me to be… A Wife!!



Life’s Lemonade

lemons  The saying goes, “When life throws you lemons, make lemonade”. The sweet refreshing taste of lemonade is preferred any day over sour lemons. Unfortunately, in life we are not granted that luxury of having a perfect life. In fact, it is easier to accept the lemons than to muster up the strength to create something new and better.

My name is Heather and life has been throwing lemons at me for quite some time. I try my best to polish my lemons off and put them on the shelf with pretty make up and hair, but somehow my lemons still get down all funky and dirty. When you know that you know you are missing something and you need to rid yourself, you either ignore the flags of life or take action.

And Ms. Heather is all about action!!

So I am taking a bit of a break from the life I am living to find out who I truly am. I am usually out in the spotlight with a big beautiful fake smile; all the while my insides are tore up. So I have decided to duck off from my life and take a seat… for now!

I love helping others, that is what I do. But who is going to take care of Heather? So I signed myself of for the job. The only way out of my current hurt and pain is to go through it, once and for all. And what better way to release, than by writing??


And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose ~ Romans 8:28


Love Yourself Girl

hwRevelation- “The way we treat people is a direct reflection of the way we feel about ourselves. You can not truly love another person if you can not truly love yourself first. Above all things put on love” ~ (Colossians 3:14). To love is the greatest commandment, from God the Father. I know at sometimes it may seem impossible to find light when it seems be so much darkness in the world. I am a living testimony that hard times do not last forever. I challenge you to smile and intentionally love on yourself today. I intentionally love me some Heather Watkins, her spirit is my greatest motivator!!! Speak life into yourself girl!!!